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Avoiding repetition

Our last illness experience has left us a little tattered and gunshy. The thought of getting sick again before the arrival of the Pikelet is too much to bear. Which is why, when one of our friends that were going to come to dinner last Friday said they had a chest infection, M raised his eyebrows…

It hadn’t even rated with me, but once I thought about it, I was happy to be the messenger of of destruction. I emailed them and said that with two and a half weeks to go, I didn’t want to hang out with someone with a chest infection – could we make it some other time? I got no response.

By late Friday morning I was starting to sweat it, so I texted them and asked if they had received my email about cancelling. “Got it,” was the two word reply. And that was that. I was feeling the antipathy vibes. *Shrugs* I felt a little bit bad, and maybe a little bit precious, but then I spoke to Small Brother who didn’t think it was at all weird. I can only assume that the response is down to the fact that our friends are the kind of people whom you have to book a few months ahead because their schedule is so tight…?

Anyway, M sent off a conciliatory chatty kind of email, and got a very minimalistic response. So. It feels as if we are in the bad books. Unfortunately, I don’t feel like I’ve been unreasonable. Have I?




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  1. The only people being unreasonable (and a tad childish) are those who think you’re asking too much.

  2. Not at all! I used to think I would never say no to hanging out with sick people because of small ones – all that changes after many many snotty coughy sleepless nights πŸ™‚

  3. beth

    Ah…this is what I needed! Support from the blogosphere…
    Thank you πŸ™‚

  4. Rae

    Ummm… 2.5 weeks to go and you are being cautious and wondering if you’ve done the right or wrong thing? Damnit I vote you did the right thing. Geebus, hard enough to go through labour, let alone trying to breathe through a chesty cough at the same time.
    I’m sure they are a good friend, why else were they invited to dinner after all, but surely they can see the sense in what happened? Give them time, i’m sure they’ll come around.

  5. I’m a tad late but agree with everyone else. My question is if you have 2.5 weeks to go why are you the one who’s doing the work and having them over anyhow? Besides which why would they mention the chest infection at all unless they wanted you to cancel out? It seems to me that your response is what they were looking for in the first place.

  6. beth

    I’ve since heard that much of their ‘unimpressed response’ is due to the fact that I emailed them and told them not to come… Apparently not good etiquette?! Which is fine – different people have different idead about this stuff – BUT the whole confirmation of them coming was via email, so it NEVER crossed my mind…
    Gah to the lot of it. Apparently they considered the chest infection non-infectious…but as it was what we all had three weeks ago, that was irrelevant to me…

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